“I can’t see how it will end.” Emily Maitlis, BBC Newsnight presenter
This weekend all the main newspapers picked up the story that BBC Newsnight presenter Emily Maitlis had opened up about her nightmare of being a victim of stalking for 25 years. Here is ‘The Guardian’s’ version: http://www.theguardian.com/media/2016/may/14/newsnight-presenter-emily-maitlis-opens-up-about-being-victim-of-stalker?CMP=twt_gu
In summary, Maitlis explains that she has been stalked by someone she knew from University and that in spite of convictions for harassing her and bombarding her with messages, it has not deterred him. She feels powerless, fears for her family and has to have an escort to go to the local supermarket as well as for her children to go to the school bus. You can feel the pain in her words:
“There is a weariness to it. It feels never ending. His life is ruined; I try to blank it. It’s a heaviness that sits on you, and when he comes back it’s dreadful. I get calls at all times of the day and night. It feels desperately sad. I can’t see how it will end.”
What’s particularly concerning on reading Emily’s story is those haunting words: “I can’t see how it will end,” How can you not sense the deep weariness of those 25 years of being stalked hanging over her? The conviction and restraining order in place seem to have done little to stop him and so it is no surprise Emily can’t see how it will end.
As a public figure, she is also not in a position to choose to move, hide away and hope he doesn’t find her. Nor should she have to. We were pleased to see that the Daily Mail’s report on this story includes a link to a National Stalking Helpline video.
It does seem, however, that the lack of a resounding cry for justice in any of the reports suggests a certain acceptance that this can be a problem victims must carry for life, through no fault of their own. This is something the Suzy Lamplugh Trust has been campaigning to change. They recently led a Stalking Awareness Week (18th-24th April) and issued a telling report: ‘Out of Sight, Out of Mind‘ which shows that a lot more needs to be done to tackle stalking and support the victims, devastated by this crime.
If you are a victim of stalking, you should call the police, but you can also get helpful advice from the National Stalking Helpline.